Silenced by the System
When I finally stood up to those threatening my safety, I was punished by my employer, local police, and the courts, who seemed unconcerned by my terrifying experiences, and said I was thin-skulled and overly sensitive. The support I got from my union was less than adequate. I was passed between five different union reps and five different lawyers, all with different perspectives on how to handle the situation. In a time when I needed safety, I got organizational chaos, compounding the devastation.
My experiences were ignored, downplayed, minimized, and even decriminalized. Normalized. Authorities refused to acknowledge the escalating pattern of violence and my reasonable efforts to obtain support and prevent the situation.
The impact on my mental and physical well-being, my career, my family, and my future were given little consideration. I realized that I was truly on my own. The focus was entirely on how I responded, while ignoring everything I had endured and my resilience in managing the situation.
Everyone has a limit to what they can tolerate.
No one should have to suffer without care, empathy, and real support. especially at the hands of their employers and governments. Harassment and intimidation should not be excused by inaction or allowed to go without consequence. Meanwhile, overworked and under-protected helping professionals, who have witnessed too much trauma, should not be punished for reacting with anger and fear in times of immense stress and with reasonable certainty of harm.